This post may contain affiliate links, meaning I may receive a small commission if you make a purchase through any links that you click. I only recommend tools I truly believe in. Proceeds are used to help grow the Adulting With ADHD universe – thank you for your support!
In the era of COVID-19, it’s even more important to have access to this person remotely and regardless of whether you have health insurance. And even though I have a very good therapist, sometimes I’m not able to get in right away. As a result, I’ve been using BetterHelp (aff) for my immediate therapy needs.
All counselors are licensed, accredited professionals. Their monthly subscription model could be more affordable than traditional therapy options currently available to you. If not, financial aid is available to those who qualify. You can communicate with your therapist as often as you want and whenever you feel it’s needed via text, talk, phone, & video.
Weighted blankets like Mosaic use deep touch pressure to help you relax and sleep better. The weight within the blanket lowers stress and cortisol, and creates a calm feeling by raising serotonin levels in the brain. My favorite one is this Lavender Minky Weighted Blanket.
Mosaic Weighted Blankets was created when founder, Laura LeMond, discovered that adding weight to her feet at night helped her sleep. This was eventually incorporated into a blanket that would provide the same amount of weight all over. Adding weight and pressure to the muscles relaxes, calms and causes a secure feeling. From anxiety to insomnia, there are many ways ADHD women can utilize this weighted blanket as a treatment tool.
I am a massively huge fan of Brain.fm (aff). One of my closest friends (who NEVER buys subscriptions) recommended it to me and I’ve been a heavy user ever since. Originally, I was only using the Focus channel (beach sounds) while I worked, but now I pretty much frequent all of their channels, which also include Relax, Sleep, Recharge, and Meditate.
One of the things I like best about Brain.fm is that it’s backed by science. Through a patented process they have coined “phase locking,” Brain.fm’s music and sounds are optimized for “allowing populations of neurons to engage in various kinds of coordinated activity.”
I struggle to remember to drink water, but when I do I feel so much better and think more clearly. According to the label, drinking one is equal to three glasses of water, and it sure does feel that way. I find it hard to drink water so when I am drinking it, I want the most bang for my buck. Now I’m in the habit of making some on the go so at the very least I’ll have 20 ounces of water a day (by their math, the equivalent nearly 4 glasses of water).
In true ADHD fashion, I need my hydration to be delicious or I’m going to get bored and not drink it. As far as flavors go, I prefer the acai berry, although my sister likes lime the best. I just noticed they brought back strawberry for good, and that’s definitely on my list to try. Passion fruit also seems like a popular flavor. To prepare, mix one packet with 16 ounces of water (I use a 20-ounce travel cup with a straw and it tastes just as good.)
I actually like everything from Happy Dance’s skincare line, but especially the bath bombs. First of all, the price is just right (especially if you catch them during a good sale) and the bombs are a nice smaller size. With CBD bath bombs I’ve tried in the past, they’re humongous (read: more expensive) and I’m only going to spend so much on something that’s essentially going to be a 30-minute soak.
Happy Dance’s bath bombs are worth every penny. About 15-20 minutes into my soak, I can feel them working as a calming, warming sensation washes over me. It’s about on-par with a really good meditation or yoga session … except you’re just soaking in a tub so you’re not really having to “work” for that good feeling. Top it off with some candles and soothing sounds (see Brain.fm below!) and this wind-down is on my rotation at least 3 times a week (ie any chance I can get).
As soon as I realized that you only have to charge this fitness tracker every 6 months, I had to give it a try. My reasons for a fitness tracker are to help me make sure I’m hitting my top daily recommended requirements of sleep, movement and hydration. It’s also very helpful when troubleshooting my moods. Sometimes I’ll be in a real funk for no good reason, then I want to know how much sleep I’ve had lately.
While I used to be a diehard Fitbit fan, in recent years I have found it too annoying and itchy to wear on my wrist. I wanted something I could wear around the neck that I wouldn’t have to constantly remember to charge. Bellabeat hit all these requirements and more.
Now that I understand the hormonal impact on ADHD and the benefits of meditation, it’s nice that the app has a period tracker and meditation tools as well. Set-up was super easy, and one interesting feature is a section of the app called Stress Sensitivity that tells you how likely it is that you’ll be faced with stress. This is based on your tracked sleeping and activity habits, as well as your menstrual cycle.
While I have tried several journals, there are three that have stuck with me over the years and for various years.
For a quick and dirty “what do you need to do today” captured in a clean, fun format, allow me to recommend the Panda Planner (aff). Even though I don’t use mine every single day chronologically (because: ADHD), I pull this one out when my brain’s been a bit too loosely goosey and needs some law and order. Once I’m back in my rhythm, I rotate onto whatever flavor of the month I’m on in terms of project planning and task management. (I’ve made peace with this – it used to make me feel like a failure, but now I know it’s just what my brain needs.)
To be fair, Panda Planner is more than a “quick and dirty” journal – that’s just how I use it. In fact, the first page has a quick tutorial on how to get the most out of it, and there also are videos to get you acquainted before you jump in.
There’s another part of me that wants to talk about feelings, water intake and other topics that just don’t quite fit with invoices or reports. For this, I use Silk and Sonder (aff). This beautiful journal is sent to you monthly and invites you to find a quiet corner, perhaps with some tea, and really get in tune with your intentions.
Usually, what happens is as soon as I get the journal, I go through the exercises in one fell swoop. Then, as needed, I use the journal to re-center throughout the month. There also is a daily component to this journal, so it’s entirely possible to use this for both wellness and daily task planning. It’s just a personal preference to keep them separate.
For Big Ideas & Goals
For the part of me who’s jacked up about a long-term project or goal, it’s all about the BestSelf (aff) journal. Capturing your life in quarters, you set some grand declarations at the start of the journal, which then gets broken into baby steps. This is another one I’ve been known to put down and pick back up from time to time. What can I say? I have a hard time sticking with one method. But this is definitely my Serious Business planner if, for example, I’m starting a new side hustle or want to run a marathon. Fun fact: I had the privilege of interviewing the co-founder of BestSelf on The Adulting With ADHD Podcast.
Similar to the Panda and Silk and Sonder planners, you really don’t have to keep this separate from the other two categories. This planner very well could cover the day-to-day and wellness – in fact, that’s what it’s designed for. But for me, this journal is the “big guns” I break out when I’m setting big plans for the quarter or am tackling an otherwise ambitious goal. Just the design itself sets the tone that this journal is for getting down to business.