Best ADHD Resources for Women: Joy

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While ADHD brains are of all stripes, a lot of us share common threads. For example, the need for novelty. Needing to keep our hands and minds busy without turning into workaholics. Needing things that stimulate or soothe the senses. The below activities accomplish least one if not all of these things. They are things I used to try to cram in within passing while living a very rushed life full of work, parenting and trying to spend time with my husband, mostly using Netflix as a crutch.

Then COVID-19 hit. Suddenly we were all trapped in a house for God knows how long …. and that’s when I finally learned how to slow the hell down. This resources page is literally ripped from the pages of the quarantine chapter of my life (which is still under way as I am writing this). 

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I ordered this kit to grow vegetables with my daughter. Completely forgot to label the vegetables and this lone sprout is the only fruit (or should I say vegetable) of our labor so far … but we had a BLAST!

Outside Time

The ADHD benefits of being outside are well-documented. And even though I am sensitive to sun, heat and allergies – I have learned that when all conditions are right to take advantage when I can. For me, it’s important to have a task at-hand to keep me outside for any significant period of time so I’m not thinking about potential sunburning or whether I’m in healing too much pollen in the air. While sheltering in place, I ordered a children’s gardening kit off of etsy and tried gardening out with my daughter. We’re still waiting for the results, but it was so therapeutic being out in the sun. It also is teaching us both about following instructions (like labeling your plants – whoops!) and setting daily watering habits (whoops again). We really had fun with it. Out of curiosity I started researching subscription boxes for beginner gardeners and came across My Garden Box. With visually illustrated instructions, simple garden care tips, and properly portioned ingredients, assembly is fun & easy! (Also, outside time is great for ADHD!)

Aside from the bonus outdoor time, I think this is a great box because gardening can be a daunting thing! Selecting the plants, having the right supplies and making sure you’re planting during the right season, and getting the mechanics down of actually plotting your garden can be really overwhelming. There are many times I have taken on gardening projects only to half-ass it and watch my poor plants shrivel up and die. I think with a box like this, that would be less likely to happen. No fuss, no muss – just open the box each month, read the instructions and have fun playing in the dirt!

Making Things With Your Bare Hands

My 3-year-old may think this project was just about entertaining her. Instead, it was much-needed entertainment for the both of us. Note the essential Diet Coke in the background to fuel the mama clockmaker.

This one’s for my knitters and other crafty ladies, many of which have been known to hang out at Adulting Club. I honestly have always been so overwhelmed by crafting that I had no idea this was a thing among the ADHD community … and now I 100% understand why! In addition to gardening, crafting is something else I have really embraced during the pandemic. It’s yet another way to entertain my daughter … but what she doesn’t realize is it’s probably more for me than her that we do it. Sure, I loved the excitement she had when we completed our first clock project (below), but honestly … it was nice to have my mind off of things for a while and to get to create something with my bare hands – very rewarding!

My next conquest will likely be a Darn Good Yarn (aff) subscription box. Their mission: to take you though a journey of exotic fibers, textures and colors to satisfy your crafting addiction without hurting your wallet. Monthly options include yarn of the month, mystery skirt, sock of the month, monthly beads subscription, and fabric of the month. A sock of the month club sounds like something I could definitely get behind. All kits are for crafters of all skill levels. If you already know what you’re doing, you can take whatever gets sent to you and run with it. If you are a newbie, there are a wealth of tutorials on the site to talk you through whatever project you choose. 

Learn A New Skill

Something a lot of us ADHD’s tend to have in common is the passion to learn new things. I know anytime I watch something on TV based on a true story, I have to get on Google and learn EVERYTHING about that topic.

If you’re in the mood to learn something new or you want to pick up a new skill at your own pace, Skillshare’s got you covered. Right now they’re offering 2 free months of their service, so it’s a good time to check it out!

Self-Care: Not Just Candles & Bubble Bath

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From coloring books to candles to aromatherapy, I am all about self-care. After decades of lacking in this area, I now know that taking care of yourself is the very foundation upon which everything else is built. And it’s not just bubble baths, either. Self-care can mean finishing a project on time so you can enjoy a weekend with your family. It can mean saying no when you need to out of respect for boundaries and self-respect. If you’re new to self-care, products such as HopeBox (aff) provide monthly encouragement with a curated selection of high-quality treasures. Includes books, aromatherapy, jewelry, candles, snuggle buddies, organic soaks, scrubs, masks, and more, all meticulously selected from the world’s most talented artisans, all of whom have their own inspiring stories of hope and renewal.

One of the things that appeal to me about this box is its potential to curb impulse buying. How many times have you been online and decided you just HAD to have that Alpaca My Bags graphic T-shirt RIGHT NOW? Would it make any difference to your impending shopping spree to know that you had a goody box coming in soon. I could see this as a great bargaining tool for yourself – no in-between shopping, then once a month you get a mystery box at your door!