Today I talked with Linda Roggli of the ADDiva Network about the ADHD Women’s Palooza 2021 (aff.), which kicks off on Monday! Linda tells us what’s in store among the 30 speakers, with fresh topics including ADHD and headaches, the ADHD genetic link and how to survive ADHD during pregnancy.
Links from episode:
Register for ADHD Women’s Palooza – https://adhdpalooza.com/women/?cookieUUID=7132fac0-fd9a-44b1-80d7-2fcde6660bda (aff)
Catch The Replays – https://adhdpalooza.com/women/?cookieUUID=7132fac0-fd9a-44b1-80d7-2fcde6660bda (aff)
Confessions of an ADDiva: midlife in the non-linear lane – https://amzn.to/3ro2CJr?tag=adwiad-20 (aff)
ADDiva Network – https://fn101.isrefer.com/go/addiva/snysarah/ (aff)
The 2021 ADHD Women’s Palooza is presented by more than 30 ADHD experts, including Sari Solden, Terry Matlen, Melissa Orlov, Rene Brooks, Tracy Otsuka, Alan Brown, IngerShaye Colzie, Drs. William W. Dodson, Edward Hallowell, Roberto Olivardia, Sharon Saline, Stephen Faraone, Sarah Cheyette, Mary Solanto, Carolyn Lentzsch-Parcells, and many more…
The topics span the entire adult life of women from dating to pregnancy to managing a career and seeking personal growth including:
The topics span the entire adult life of women from dating to pregnancy to managing a career and seeking personal growth. Check out this sample of what we’ll cover:
- ADHD 2.0 – Strategies that Matter NOW
- The ADHD Dating Game
- Pregnancy & ADHD
- CBD & Cannabis: What the Science Says
- Shifting Your Mindset to Accept Who You Are
- Understanding Automatic Reactions and Negative Emotions in Relationships
- Beyond the Binary: Gender and ADHD
- Why a Planner Doesn’t Cure Disorganization
- When a Headache is Not a Headache
- Social Blind Spots
- Survival Skills for the Non-ADHD Partner
- How to Build Self-Trust to Reduce Shame
- Perfectionism and ADHD Women
- Re-Entering the Workforce with ADHD: This Time It Will Be Different!
- Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria: Now what?
This is the adult with ADHD podcast self empowerment for people with ADHD today I'm very excited to have with me life coach Linda Roggli. And, and that I get that right? Yes, you did. Congratulate Hi, thank you. How many people do not? Yeah, and we're gonna talk a little bit about what she's about the ad diva network and the ADHD women's Palooza. Hi, Linda. Wonderful to meet you and see you. How's it going?
Thank you so much for inviting me there. I'm thrilled that there's so much support for ADHD and what yours is one of the best? Well, thanks. Yeah. So why don't you tell me a little bit about? Well, first the work you do. And then I know you have a lot of projects going on. I'd love to hear. hear about what you got. Yeah, well, I'm going to kind of rewind to the very beginning of the Add VA network because I was diagnosed at when I was at perimenopause, like in my mid 40s, late 40s. Actually, I didn't believe the diagnosis. It took me three times three different doctors says for me to actually believe it was some space in between those. But when I started going to ADHD conferences like Adda and Chad, I was so hungry to talk to other women with ADHD, but there just wasn't much time. Like there might be like a little breakout session so you could talk to them or, or a special whatever. I mean, there was just a very, very little time and and because there was so much going on, let me just make sure that I have my mail turned off. So we don't hear any more being sorry. Yeah, no problem. Um, and so I was so eager to talk to other ADHD women to find out if they felt the way I did. And there was there wasn't much out there. Sarah Solon had written the seminal book about ADHD. Terry Matlin had written a book about strategies for ADHD women, and that was pretty much it. And to me, they were just kind of like the goddesses of ADHD and and that's and so I was more than surprised when I sat down next to one of them at a conference. And they were really nice to me. at all, that was really wonderful, which says a lot about ADHD. Yeah. So I realized that I really wanted to create a network for women that would allow us to talk to each other and give us support specific to women. And both Terry and Sarah were doing that. But I wanted to do it in a little different way. Because I know your audience and you are probably completely familiar with Dr. Russell Barkley and I love this man to pieces he has done the work that is that is set the stage for us to for ADHD to take to be taken seriously. But often, when I would come away from one of his lectures at one of these conferences, I felt like I wanted to slit my wrists. I just thought this was bad. Yes, no, it was like, Oh my God, we have more car accidents with more pregnant it's just like, Oh my God, is there anything good about us? Yeah. And I so I reframed ADHD in a more positive light. And I know that Ned Halliwell does that too. He does it a little different way. But I wanted to do it for women. So I actually t shirts printed that had the definition of add vo which is the name of what I call us women that that were like impulsive, instead of impulsive, were spontaneous. And instead of, you know, condition, you know, you know, you know, hyperfocus we're, we're passionate. That's all I reframed all of those things. So I wanted to do this in a positive light. And yet I didn't want to be Pollyanna about it. There's a lot of stuff about ADHD that is no fun. Right? So the programs that I ended up setting up through the add the network related back to my training as an ADHD coach and a life coach, because I trained as a spiritual life coach with Neale Donald Walsch, who wrote the books, conversations with God. And I just want to say this is not about religion. This is about spirituality. There's, to me, there's, there's a combination, but there's also a specificity that that separates them in some instances. And I thought, how am I going to pull this all together? What I did was create. First I
did just private coaching, but I wanted to do women's retreats. And that was my passion. So from 2005, I've been I've been hosting women's retreats first, not for ADHD folks, but just for spiritual life. And then within a few years for ADHD women as well. And so that was kind of my, my entree into the world, if you will, about when I'd always wanted to write a book. I'd written a couple of books, but they were for someone else. Someone said, write this book. And so I, you know, I did, I wrote the book and they work that was fine, but I wanted to write the ADHD book and so it took me Not surprisingly, it took me about four or five years to finally get it going right All right, finally published confessions of an ad diva midlife in the nonlinear Lane was specific to women who are 40. And better, as I like to call them. And I was so honored to be named the winner of the first prize for women's issues in the independent Book Awards, the year that the book came out, that was really, really thrilled about that. So now kind of fast forward into the present, I'm still conducting women's retreats, not last year, because you know, COVID. And this year, I'm so happy to say that I've just booked the beach houses so that we will be able to have a beach retreat. And we also I also have retreats at my own Retreat Center, which is kind of kitty corner behind my house, we have about 10 acres of you know, beautiful Verdun, North Carolina forest. And so we have retreats here. And I'm actually going to do a virtual retreat in toward the end of April around my birthday, which is at the end of April. So lots of things going on plus a coaching spa, the coaching spas group coaching, I'm still doing some private coaching and group coaching has just exploded. And we there's small groups. And finally, about a year ago, before I really knew anything was going to happen with this COVID thing I did, I wanted to get organized, and I'm going to invite some friends to to get organized with me. So I created the get organized program. And it was right after I did a webinar for attitude magazine about organizing, okay, 85 people signed. Oh, geez. I wonder well, many more people than I expected. Then I realized, nope, people weren't done in four weeks. So we had to create a follow up program. So now we have get organized and go forward. And some people have been in the programs for a year, which doesn't mean that the program doesn't work. Right if they're still working on new things. So now I'm really thrilled. And then of course we have the Palooza which I assume you want to talk about that a little bit too. But we'll talk about whenever you absolutely. I was curious that Palooza has always been virtual, right? It has Yeah, always. Yeah. Very interesting. So that's coming up, I was really surprised to see that in my social media feed, because I kept thinking it was far off. And it's here it is.
Yeah. So um, what got you excited about launching that? What What was the story behind that?
Well, in very much the same way that I've always wanted to write a book. And I'd always wanted to do women's retreats. I really felt that I had I had a vision when I created the ad network that I wanted to create not just a conference for ADHD, but a conference for women's ADHD. And I had this I don't know what it was, there was something in my brain that said it was going to happen in San Paulo, Brazil, I don't know, I was just one of those weird, you know, brain fluke kind of things. And yet, what I realized is because I sat on the board for as Vice President for several years, and what I realized is that in person conferences, number one, have declined since 911. The attendance has not been as great as it had been before then. And I know that seems like a long time ago, but it has influenced it even to this day. And they're very expensive, because there's a lot of overhead. And I thought I can't afford to go in
there and lose 1000s and 1000s of dollars. I I want to be in front of someone and look into their eyes and say I get it and you get it and we're here. Yeah, like right here. Yeah, yeah. I thought, let me just some of the people who had started virtual conferences had kind of fallen by the wayside, they had dropped out. So I thought, well, there's an opening. Let me step into it. And what my intention was, in that first year, which was 2016, was to bring together the cream of the crop experts. I'm talking about the names that everyone knows, like Russell Barkley like Ned Halliwell, like Tom Brown. Steven Hinshaw, the people who have done the research the people who really know this inside and out to the extent that they can because frankly, even now, there's not a lot of research about women's specific ADHD and, or even girls for that matter. So that was what I that was my intention, and I can't tell you how thrilled I was that they even took my call. I bet it's exciting. It's like oh my gosh, that person knows me. Well, they may not have known me but they at least agreed to be part of the Palooza so we were thrilled to have the various elements of the world and Terry Matlin and I created this together and, and a year or so later, Terry's life got really really busy. So she has taken a backseat to managing this even though I still consider her an integral part of it. She was part of the of the of the original work. So my goal with that Palooza, and I can't believe this is going to be our six years just kind of blows me away. But my goal has always been to provide accurate and the most recent information that we can possibly bring to women. And just before we started recording today, we discussed The fact that there's not sometimes there's not really a lot of new stuff happening out there, you know, they're still basically to stimulant medications, you know, I mean, there's it's sometimes it's this progress is slow kind of thing. And yet there are some new things that happen. So my commitment is to bring as diverse a number of experts as possible with a diverse experience and information. And I tried very hard to write and not duplicate the information that we had last year. So since we do 30, a year, 30 sessions a year, it makes it really hard to not duplicate what's happened before. But this year, we have done that we have information out there this year, that no one's no one's talked about. So I'm excited about that. But it gets a little harder every year to find the the experts who know that stuff. Like for instance, it's been really hard for me to find someone to talk about nutrition and ADHD. Yes, I got an email today from somebody who's doing a class about exactly that. She has ADHD herself. So anyway, you open up in the universe provides, right, yes. I want to be on the list for that webinar.
Yeah, that is a perfect example of a conversation that a lot of us are craving more information on. I think that's a perfect example. Anything like that this year that you're just like, super jazzed to see as far as speakers?
Yeah. Well, there's a couple of there are a couple of things that we've not talked about at all. I mean, we did talk, there's some relationship seminars, there's relationships topics, you know, with, with some of the people I've had on before, and some new folks, which is also what I try to do is have a variety of folks. So some of the folks you saw last year, you may not see this year, but you might see them next year. We hope we have another next year. One of the things I'm interested in is that Sarah Shea Dr. Sarah Shea talked about headaches and ADHD. Yes, I saw that. Yeah. And I was unaware that migraine headaches and ADHD can be can correlate. I knew and yeah, yeah. Yeah, I'm not surprised. And they may or may not be hormonal II related to migraines, because migraines can be hormone
related, which I didn't realize until I talked to Sarah about that. Another person that I was really excited to have on and I've been wanting to talk about this for a long time, is I wanted to talk about genetics and ADHD. Yes. And I belong to a professional organization where all those top names that we mentioned, the, you know, the Russell, Barclays, in the people who do the seminal research, the original research, they, they are at the front of the room, I'm sitting at the back of the room trying to drink it in, you know, trying to keep my fingers on, hold on for dear life. And yet, I was thrilled when I approached Dr. Steve for round to talk about research in genetics, because he has done that research. So I was so I was so thrilled to talk to him. It's a it's a short, sweet session, but it is so full of information that I think people will really be eager to know, especially for those of us who deal with family members, friends, you know, relatives who say, oh, ADHD, you just making that up. It's just you just try harder. Yeah, there's interestingly enough, there are now genetic correlations between ADHD and obesity, ADHD, and BMI, ADHD and kidney, excuse me, heart disease, ADHD and lung cancer. Isn't that genetically? Now? I'm not saying that this is just kind of like, Oh, well, just because but it's genetic links. And I don't want to say that because you have ADHD, you're going to have those things, right, you're going to x or a one piece of the puzzle are nature versus nurture. Nurture has a lot to do with this as well. So I'm really, really excited about those. And there are so many more, you know, last year, we are talking about pregnancy for the first time this year, I saw that dusty Yeah, yes. Yeah, absolutely. And, and, and dusty. And I've been trying to connect for a couple of years. But let's face it, pregnancy, men don't have those issues. And if you're pregnant, if you're if you're a woman, or someone who identifies as a woman who can get can be pregnant. Very, very interesting conversation. And of course, we talk about we talk about some of the things that everyone talks about, because how do we get things done? Well, how do we do for what do we do for productivity? And what about medications? And what about a planner, etc. But another thing that we have never talked about is what some people are calling the ADHD tax. Yeah, the amount of money that it costs, and it's not just money. It's his burden of ADHD on us. When I wrote my book, I decided I didn't call it that because no one had come up with that term. And I certainly did. But when I when I wrote my book, although Many years ago, I sat down and tried to figure out how much ADHD had cost me just in the time that I had known about it. And when I added up the cost of doctor's appointments, things that I'd signed up for that I didn't ever didn't never do showed up for classes I'd missed, late fees, tax packs, things that I had, you know, screwed up on. All these things, things that when I'm speeding at the last minute, I don't get the early bird special kind of thing. You know, all those things, shockingly, added up to about a quarter of a million dollars a year.
Yeah, I believe I believe it. Yeah, absolutely. Especially when you get lost and calm. I look at the trajectory of my career. And all these opportunities I missed. And
it's incredible. Yeah, I agree. And I just want to mention one more thing that we're doing this year that I hadn't really talked about much. I haven't mentioned it to anyone that you Mike Fidel is an ADHD coach, and he has offered to do a live improv class for us on Thursday evening, from seven to 815. That's Eastern time. So everyone's invited, he can't do improv with everyone. But he's going to work with three or four people at a time. And his experience shows that improv can actually bring more focus and more attention for ADHD folks. So I'm really, really, really jazzed about that. I'm really excited about
that. So that is awesome. I know. And, and then, of course, the pink ticket, the pink ticket affair, or the pink ticket party that we talked about, is on Saturday afternoon. And I will say because remember, when I said that I really wanted to create a women's conference, a live conference, so we could be with each other and talk to each other. That was the whole reason I created the diva network, I was determined if we're going to we're just not going to sit here and have experts pour information into you. We need to talk about it. Yeah. And there's nothing wrong with experts. We need them. I'm one of them for heaven's sake, but we need to talk to each other. So the pink ticket was something that I was saying, we're not doing this unless we have an opportunity for live in an interactive session. And so we have three hours set aside, we're inviting some of our experts in to answer questions. So you can ask questions live, because the other thing was somebody's just giving you information, you don't have an opportunity to ask them questions, right? We're gonna do breakout rooms in zoom, because you everybody's familiar with zoom, now, we're gonna do breakout rooms. And I will send the topic out so that you guys that everyone can talk about that same topic. But you know, ADHD, I'm not going to talk about what I say talk about which is perfect. We just, I just want to give women an opportunity to connect with each other, and say, This is me. And they can, of course have their cameras on if they choose to, or they can call in or they can leave their cameras off, they don't have to be seen. It's not something that you have to dress up for. This is because you are this is ADHD guys. So we want to make this as comfortable as possible. So I'm really excited about that, too, that cost a little a little extra money. And for a lot of people that $50 is maybe the maybe the best money they spend all year because it's the only time that they actually are able to talk to other women and actually ask questions of experts, one on one, instead of just kind of out there in the wilderness. And I don't know about you, but I have a lot of questions. And no one was really helping me answer them. Even my, even my psychiatrist was kind of like, here's a pill,
here's a brochure and there's gonna be nothing under that's helpful to you. That was in there.
So General, right. And we're all so different. You know, our ADHD manifests in such different ways. There's a psychiatrist in Toronto, who who took back in the day of the DSM four, he took all of the descriptors of ADHD, any any cross reference, cross cross reference them so that every combination and permutation of those words and those descriptors, he came up with a total of 7000 potential different ADHD variations. Yeah, wow, that and that's before, first of all, that's DSM four, and probably five would be even more. But that's before we add in gender is before we add in socio economic, it's before we add in education, it's before we add you add in culture, experience, familial issues, all those things, genetics. So you can imagine that each of us are, you know, like a little snowflake. You know, we really are unique. It's almost our fingerprint is of our ADHD, even though we have some common traits.
Yeah, I use the fingerprint thing a lot. I was telling my dad about my podcast, and he said, How are you going to keep that going? Like, aren't you going to run out of ideas? I said, Every single person I talked to it's like a fingerprint. I could ask identical questions to every single person and it's a fascinating
episode because we are also different, you know, so I love the fingerprint. analogy. So yeah, where can we go if we want to learn more about the Palooza
thanks for asking yeah thanks for asking well if you want to find out more about me it's add vote dotnet add IV a and it is add book because even though we are not divas in the traditional sense of being arrogant and you know have to have everything my way we need our things to be our way because otherwise we don't move my piles Don't touch my pile Steven. Anyway, that's that's the reason I said at diva for the ADHD Palooza and you can get there you can get to the Palooza from add but but the it's easy to just type in ADHD palooza.com and I have all the misspellings of Palooza so don't worry if you misspell two O's in a z just so you know. We have the women's Palooza that happens in the early spring and probably we'll back up to February next year. We just had some COVID issues this year. But the parents Palooza the ADHD parents Palooza happens in the summertime and I'm we're planning I plan that with ADHD with impact ADHD are now they've changed her name to impact parents, with Diane Dempster and Elaine Taylor. Klaus are experts in ADHD parenting. So if you have kiddos with ADHD, and you may have ADHD yourself, for heaven's sake, that's a great place to get information. It's a completely different set of experts. And just between you, me and all of your listeners. Hi, I'm planning to create an ADHD couples Palooza and eventually, eventually an ADHD entrepreneurs Palooza as well. So there are things coming there on the horizon. If I could just clone myself they would happen. Or maybe if I didn't have ADHD.
I prefer the cloning. We need more good to meet you. Linda, thank you so much. And it's great to finally meet you and really looking forward to the Palooza thank you so much for the work you do for us. And I just I can't wait. So
excited. Monday, March 8. Yes, it's right around the corner. You guys. It's coming right up. I'm going to turn this around. Hopefully today while I'm in like, in the car, we're driving to the beach, but I'm going to the beach beach. All right, all right. And just just so you folks know, if they did this before, this is a little different. We're not, we're not releasing them at scheduled times. We're going to we have recorded all of them, we are going to give them to you in a nice bouquet at the beginning of the day, at least seven o'clock eastern time. So you can watch them anytime you want to you get them three for 24 hours. at seven o'clock the next day, we're gonna give you another bundle of wonderful and they're divided by days on our website, so you'll know who the people are going to be. And of course, I'll put them in social media as well. Yeah. I just wanted to let people know that if you are if you really want to watch the headache when for instance, then just look on the day that is and make sure that you grab that one that day. And they'll all be in Palooza Central. So we have I thought it was so sweet. Because there was a woman who was who signed up for the Palooza. She said I signed up two or three weeks ago. And I'm so disappointed because I keep clicking on the Palooza Central, and nothing allows me to see anything. And we had the gently teller it doesn't start till next week. Sounds like something I would do. Yeah, I get it. All right. I'm sorry for that long PostScript. But I'm like I love it. And I that's such a great feature because I am the type of person who, I don't know how, when I'm going to get interrupted, I
want to see like what I want to see immediately. And then you can put it on pause. And you can watch it when you have another minute or two. Yeah, so it works out really well. I think I'm keeping my fingers crossed that people are going to appreciate it. I borrowed the idea from some of my ADHD colleagues like Laurie superar. But it may or may not work. Some people may love it. Some people may hate it. So we'll just have to say I'm looking for feedback. Well, we're open to everything. It's a learning process
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